Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] You're forcing them to see themselves. When you're working hard at something, it's not on you to take on their insecurities and their fears. Did you know that first year nurses experience the highest turnover of any group?
[00:00:15] That reality is staggering, but it also tells us something important.
[00:00:20] You are not alone and your growth matters.
[00:00:27] Welcome to the All One Nurse Podcast, where we are bridging the gap between the stethoscope and the soul through real nursing stories and nursing conversations.
[00:00:37] Here, our mission is simple to get back to the human side of healthcare.
[00:00:43] I'm your host, Nurse Chanel Tompkins, and I'm also your mentor and nurse educator. And this space was created just for you to breathe, to learn, to grow, and most importantly, feel supported no matter where you are in your nursing journey.
[00:01:05] So take a deep breath and let's step into your next breakthrough. Hey friend. Welcome back. I'm your host Chanel Tompkins, and I want to encourage you if you have not listened to last week's episode Failing Forward, I encourage you to because failing Forward means viewing our mistakes and our setbacks as opportunities to learn, to grow, and to move closer to our goals, rather than reasons to just quit. In that episode, we unpacked four powerful reminders that have guided me, and I believe they'll guide you before we dive into today's topic. This space wouldn't be discoverable without my awesome subscribers, so if you're not already one of them, I invite you to go ahead and click that subscribe button and stay. Stick around to the very end of the episode to find out ways to go deeper and to connect more personally with me, your host, Shanelle Tompkins. Let's dive in. I read a LinkedIn post recently by a gentleman named Dr. O' Neill Lausela who asked, what is one thing you're determined to accomplish, change, or leave behind in the last step 60 days of 2026? And my response was this. Stop masking settling as humility. Again, I leave behind the illusion that settling is humility. I can be humble without shrinking, and I can be bold without being selfish. And maybe you're like, Chanel, let's talk about it. Well, yes, let's talk about it. Here are some questions that I've been asking myself and I want to ask you. Do you dim your light or make yourself small around others and call it humility because you want to be humble and avoid a conflict? Or maybe this is not you at all, but if this is you, the question is why? Why? Chanel, Again, I'm not A counselor, but still in sessions I have had with counselors or with women who create this environment to help you be productive and grow. Personally, it always.
[00:03:31] I'm always challenged to reflect. And the question always makes me reflect on what happened. Like, and whatever the question is, it always makes me reflect on my childhood. Like how was I raised? Or what did I experience that made me feel like I couldn't speak up for myself? Now I can speak up for others. I can advocate really well for others, like my patients or my new nurses. And always with respect. Always.
[00:04:01] But why not myself? Taking on the world and everyone else's problems, wanting the best for everyone else and leaving myself depleted or maybe not even depleted because I think I just do it because I want. I get to do it. But maybe you're like me. Maybe you're not just truly depleted, but. But maybe you just. Or maybe you compromise a lot. You don't know how to say no to the right things so that you can say yes to the right things or say no to the wrong things so that you can say yes to the right things. Well, I want to leave you with this message today that ET the hip hop motivator, says really well in his latest interview with Mel Robbins on the Mel Robbins podcast. And it's about being, getting back to your best self. And for context, he talks about a 52 day challenge, being a better version of yourself in some area. Not choosing everything all at once, but one thing, one thing. And I want you to think back to when you were your best self and start implementing that thing, the things that made you better at that time. For him, it was his health and his weight. And he explains that on the podcast. And for you it may be more mental than physical, but we know that they both play into each other because when you feel better physically, you start to feel better mentally.
[00:05:31] And when you feel better mentally, you're more likely to want to be better physically or less likely to let your physical body decline because you are in a better mental state. Hope that makes sense. But etx, what am I embarrassed about? What's my hurt and do I want attention or growth? For him, he said that he took a pic of where he was his best self as far as his health and where he wanted to be. And he put it on a mirror. He put it on like his nightstand. He said do whatever you gotta do to see it, to see yourself, like make it realistic for you. Just a picture of him when he was his best self. And that was his motivation to get back on track. And so I encourage you and myself to reflect, ask those hard questions. What am I embarrassed about? What am. What's my hurt? And you may need a counselor to help you unpack these things, and that's okay, too. But how do we get back to moving forward, being our best self? Point blank period. And he also mentioned that where your focus goes, your energy flows. And if you're in nursing school, all your energy needs to be flowing toward the program. They don't give you. They don't really give you an opportunity to do anything else they want. It's like it requires all of your energy. So you have to stay focused on those things that are required of you in the program if you want to be successful. And another statement he says is, you owe you for me, I owe me. Meaning life isn't about proving who's right to make things right. Correction. He also mentions that I owe me. Nobody else owes me. I owe me. So you owe you. You owe you the time, the energy, the focus, the ability to get through that nursing program, to be an awesome nurse, to be a nurse of integrity, with compassion, empathy, following those moral ethics, moral code of ethics, of nursing, like you owe you to lead yourself. And I love that. ET Pointed out that life isn't about proving who's right or wrong, but to make things right for me. Because people can be wrong and they can be right, or they can be right and you can be wrong. But either way, how do you get to a place that is right for you? And I want to take it another step further with something I heard Mr. Myron say. Myron Bell, I believe he said, either way, I'm right. Either way, I'm right. Because when I'm right, okay, I'm right. But when I'm wrong, I want to understand while I'm why I'm wrong so that I can be right. That's powerful. That's powerful. Back to E.T. the hip hop motivator. He gives us some practical ways to make the necessary changes. And I want to give them to you today. Number one, schedule it. Whatever it is that you need to start doing to be a better version of yourself, to be.
[00:08:41] Be back at that better version of you. Whether it's your physical health, your mental health, spiritually, whatever it is, schedule it, start doing it, write it down, put it on the calendar, because you're more likely to do it if you plan it into your day.
[00:08:56] And then number two, take it slow. Don't overdo it. Don't overwhelm yourself. If it's working out. You're not trying to go in the gym and push hard for a whole hour when you know you don't have a whole hour to give. Maybe it's five or 10 minutes, maybe it's just stretching in your living room because you haven't stretched in ages or ever. And just know that it's the small consistent steps that lead to progress.
[00:09:23] Make it a non negotiable meaning. Don't let for him, he mentioned not letting other people's fears consume you and keep you from doing what it is that you're doing. Because even in nursing school, when other people don't understand or you're forcing them to see themselves when you're working hard at something, it's not on you to take on their insecurities and their fears. Stay focused. Stay focused. And the bottom line is their problem is not. Their problem is a non negotiable for me. Their problem is a non negotiable for me. What I have to do for me is what I need to do for me. Because we can't live our life based on again, somebody else's fears, insecurities, lack of effort. And then the last thing that ET mentions is number four, tell someone else what you're doing and that's someone else who truly celebrates you, supports you, and can hold you accountable, will hold you accountable. Because a lot of times you aren't. A lot of times the person who celebrates you isn't the person that's closest to you no matter how bad you want it to be. That partner, that friend, parent. It may be someone that you meet along the way, along those steps that you're taking. When you enroll into school to get your prerequisites for nursing school. For the nursing program. While you're taking your prerequisites, it may be your advisor. When you decide to enroll in school, you start nursing. It may be someone on a whole, a whole other unit to make room for others that you least expect who truly celebrates you, support you and hold you accountable. To recap, as we continue to fail forward, we can also start to address things we may be embarrassed about or hurt by. Then ask ourselves, do we want attention? Do we want somebody to hear us? Or do we want to grow? If you want to grow, which is the goal of all one nurse, let's begin implementing these practical steps. If you get a chance to listen to listen to the full episode with ET the Hip Hop Motivator on the Mel Robbins podcast, then you will learn more details about the 52 day challenge and to a better you. If you're a nursing student and you don't have time, then the reminder then just to recap again, schedule it, take it light, don't overdo it, make it a non negotiable and tell someone else what you're doing so so they can celebrate you and hold you accountable. Now as we wrap up this episode, I encourage you to take the 92nd survey in the show notes below because it helps me learn more about you and allows me to partner with others to keep bringing even more value to this space. And if a question seems too personable, skip it. It's okay. There's also an opportunity to receive a little blessing or you may see it as a lot of blessing, especially as a student. And we'll you can sign up on the survey as well at the end of the survey and I'll announce the winner on November 24th right before Thanksgiving across social media. So be sure to follow all one nurse on your favorite podcast platform like TikTok, Facebook or Instagram. And if you want to go deeper in person and get more personal and connect personally, I invite you to join all one Nurse Family private Facebook community. The link is in the show notes below and we are a group of nursing students, new nurses, early career professionals, and seasoned nurses growing personally and professionally together. I pray this episode helps you in more ways than one and you'll forward it to someone else. All of your classmates, your friends, someone you know who's in nursing school now or looking forward to being a nurse, or thinking about going back to school to become a nurse because it may be the encouragement that they need. And I want you to remember Psalm 25:21 as you go throughout your week that says, May integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope, Lord, is in you. And remember that you are the light of the world and that a city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light shine before men so that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Amen. See you next week. Bye.
